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Analyses on the Colonial Gender System

2,457 notes3.318:44 PM • Source: medicine
#gender #gender roles #colonialism #racism #sexism #misogyny

feministcaptainmorgan:

Very informative. 

113,778 notes12.2110:44 PM • Source: arscharis
#reblogged #photos #gender #lgbtqa

This one time I was Milan and I’m literally around multi-millionaires and billionaires at this dinner and Dita Von Teese gets on stage and she gets buck naked and she spins around in a big martini glass and everyone clapped for her. And it’s bullshit. It’s not fair that it’s OK for her to do it because she doing it for rich white people but you know I was in like, the hood, and I did what I had to do to survive… and I constantly get ridiculed.

- Amber Rose 

Curve Magazine Interview “The Real Amber Rose” (2011)

I love Amber Rose don’t care who knows

(via blackamazon)

11,978 notes3.117:12 PM • Source: femmedreamboat
#queued #feminism #feminist #truth #race #racism #class #classism #gender #stripping #burlesque #striptease #nudity #objectification #sexualization
grrrlfever:

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grrrlfever:

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22,070 notes2.187:12 PM • Source: lesbolution
#feminism #feminist #heteronormativity #sexual orientation #sexuality #sex #gender #idneitity #straight #gay #queer #lgbtq

feminishblog:

Please understand when someone says you have privilege - whether it be because of your race, gender, etc., understand they are not saying they claim to know you and understand your life. They are not saying you have lived an easy life. They are not saying you were born with a silver spoon or found one along the way.

What they are saying is that you were born with something, something that others were not. You were born with an advantage that for the time being, is still inherent and institutionalized.

What they are saying is listen, because as a result of that privilege, there are some things you can’t learn unless you do exactly that - listen.

So I implore you: Open you eyes. Close your mouth. Fill your ears, and consequentially, your heart and mind.

751 notes12.311:05 AM • Source: feminishblog
#feminism #feminist #privilege #male privilege #white privilege #identity #gender #race #sexism #misogyny #racism #ableism

As I anticipated, the majority of the victims were female. There’s also his mother, and still one other unidentified victim, from the sounds of it?

There is a clear root cause of all these male spree-killings. It isn’t mental illness nor gun violence (ultimately that’s a major problem which exacerbates an already bad situation, but it isn’t the reason). These men all display very similar characteristics of anxious masculinity and massive male entitlement; they just take it to the furthest end of the spectrum we see displayed by men throughout our society. We are raising these men; these men are part of our society. Whilst their acts are monstrous, they themselves are not monsters.

All the shooters in these spree-killings are male and almost all of them are white (in the US, anyway; it varies in other parts of the world dependent on ethnic makeup). They have similar personality types: men who have been taught since birth that they’re worth more than other people by virtue of gender, race, sexual orientation etc but have poor social skills. They don’t get the pussy they’re ‘owed’ the job they’re ‘owed’, the attention they’re ‘owed’. Sometimes, that intense sense of entitlement and anger are further displayed in their choice of victims. Some kill indiscriminately, but a lot specifically target women and girls. That’s not a coincidence. And yet the media either a) never notices or b) if they do notice, they don’t report on it. I watched several docos on the Amish school shooting and not a single one of them mentioned the very obvious fact that the shooter separated the boys and girls and then shot only the girls.

People fumble around asking “why? why?” and the answer is right in front of our faces and is thoroughly tied up in masculinity and the way we are raising our boys to see themselves as worth more than other people, and to deny the humanity of women and children in particular. This is a spectrum, and domestic abusers/killers are enacting the same exact thing, just in a different way. Family annihilators are a particularly obvious parallel; they take out their ex and kids in one fell swoop because he sees them as extensions of himself that he has a right to control and kill at will, rather than people in their own right. The whole thing is just disgusting, and I’m so tired of this happening repeatedly with a whole bunch of “Why?” questions raised, and then things like mental illness or video games get scapegoated. There are many pieces to the puzzle, of course. But the reason some men do this is not ‘because video games’, or ‘because mental illness’. It is ‘because toxic masculinity’ and ‘because male entitlement’.

run_atreyu on ontd (via shortbreadsh)

5,469 notes12.211:29 AM • Source: shortbreadsh
#queued #sandy hook elementary #mass shooting #school shooting #entitlement #power #gender #race #masculinity #hate

If a woman writes about herself, she’s a narcissist. If a man does the same, he’s describing the human condition. Emily Gould (via someonepleasetellanneboleyn, meredithbklyn) (via vomohiper) (via friendlyangryfeminist) (via feminishblog)

34,047 notes11.1211:09 PM • Source: meredithbklyn
#feminism #feminist #gender #double standards #society
bookshop:

(You guys, not even joking, this is the BEST INTERVIEW EVER <3)
Dad Cracks Zelda Game, Turns Daughter Into Hero
When Mike Hoye set out to make the game Legend of Zelda: The Wind Waker more gender-friendly for his 3-year-old daughter (she pronounces it gender “fwee”), he was doing it primarily out of parental love. But when the former system administrator released a crack for the game that reverses the genders of the characters—making Link the heroine and Zelda the guy she rescues—he struck a chord with gamers across the Internet. 
Since Hoye wasn’t about to teach his daughter that she couldn’t be the hero in her own story unless she related to a man, he devised a special crack to reverse all the gender pronouns and other references to Link’s gender in the story. Once the crack was done—he told the Dot it took only “a few days of work, spread out over a couple of weeks”—he shared the results.
“As you might imagine I’m not having my daughter growing up thinking girls don’t get to be the hero and rescue their little brothers,” he blogged on Wednesday. Hoye also made sure that the references matched up tonally, too: When one commenter suggested Hoye replace “lad” with “gal,” he responded succinctly, “‘Gal’ is not something you call the resurrected Hero Of Time.”
Daily Dot: Based on the response from readers, would you consider turning this into a project for more than just games for your daughter? Obviously you’ve highlighted a huge and basic gender inequality issue at work.

I’d certainly consider it. The approach I’ve taken isn’t particularly user-friendly, though, and I don’t know how it could be made much more user-friendly without getting hung up on some of the sharp, rusty edges of modern copyright laws. If this turns into a thing that other people start doing, though, and if the “small patch to the dialog” route I’m taking seems to work for whatever community emerges, then I’d love to contribute to and support that effort.

DD: There’s so much tension right now in the gaming community over issues of sexism that it seems like such a project could be a really touchy subject.

It’s only a touchy subject with people who think the status quo is OK. And since those people are clearly, obviously wrong, I’m not all that worried about whether or not they’re comfortable with it.

Read more from the most awesome dad on the planet at the Daily Dot!

bookshop:

(You guys, not even joking, this is the BEST INTERVIEW EVER <3)

Dad Cracks Zelda Game, Turns Daughter Into Hero

When Mike Hoye set out to make the game Legend of ZeldaThe Wind Waker more gender-friendly for his 3-year-old daughter (she pronounces it gender “fwee”), he was doing it primarily out of parental love. But when the former system administrator released a crack for the game that reverses the genders of the characters—making Link the heroine and Zelda the guy she rescues—he struck a chord with gamers across the Internet. 

Since Hoye wasn’t about to teach his daughter that she couldn’t be the hero in her own story unless she related to a man, he devised a special crack to reverse all the gender pronouns and other references to Link’s gender in the story. Once the crack was done—he told the Dot it took only “a few days of work, spread out over a couple of weeks”—he shared the results.

“As you might imagine I’m not having my daughter growing up thinking girls don’t get to be the hero and rescue their little brothers,” he blogged on Wednesday. Hoye also made sure that the references matched up tonally, too: When one commenter suggested Hoye replace “lad” with “gal,” he responded succinctly, “‘Gal’ is not something you call the resurrected Hero Of Time.”

Daily Dot: Based on the response from readers, would you consider turning this into a project for more than just games for your daughter? Obviously you’ve highlighted a huge and basic gender inequality issue at work.

I’d certainly consider it. The approach I’ve taken isn’t particularly user-friendly, though, and I don’t know how it could be made much more user-friendly without getting hung up on some of the sharp, rusty edges of modern copyright laws. If this turns into a thing that other people start doing, though, and if the “small patch to the dialog” route I’m taking seems to work for whatever community emerges, then I’d love to contribute to and support that effort.

DD: There’s so much tension right now in the gaming community over issues of sexism that it seems like such a project could be a really touchy subject.

It’s only a touchy subject with people who think the status quo is OK. And since those people are clearly, obviously wrong, I’m not all that worried about whether or not they’re comfortable with it.

Read more from the most awesome dad on the planet at the Daily Dot!

2,112 notes11.125:36 PM • Source: bookshop
#gaming culture #representation #gender

Payments for Victims of Eugenics are Shelved

visveryextraordinary:

North Carolina’s novel effort to compensate people who were sterilized under a widespread and decades-long eugenics program that stretched into the 1970s all but died in the State Senate on Wednesday.

Despite backing from Gov. Bev Perdue and the State House of Representatives, a compensation package that would have given victims up to $50,000 each was not included in the Senate’s budget.

“I think there’s a very strong message from the Senate they’re not prepared to take it up this year,” said Thom Tillis, a Republican and speaker of the House, who supported paying victims.

Lawmakers will vote on the final $20.2 billion budget later this week and then send it to the governor, but it is unlikely that any last-minute changes will include the eugenics bill.

Victims and supporters, who had hoped North Carolina would be the first of 32 states that practiced eugenics to pay victims, were angry.

“I am just overwhelmed that their mentality is still the same as the politicians who supported eugenics in the first place,” said Elaine Riddick, who was sterilized at 14 after having a baby fathered by a neighbor. “You have done messed up people for life, and this is what you do?”

The state said that Ms. Riddick was “feebleminded” and potentially promiscuous. So her grandmother, who was illiterate and who feared Ms. Riddick would be sent to an orphanage, signed the consent form with an X.

Ms. Riddick, who now lives in Atlanta, took a case against the state to the United States Supreme Court in the ‘70s, but it declined to hear her appeal. She is now working with a lawyer representing a group of victims from other states to consider a class-action suit.

Certainly, fiscal concerns were a factor in the Senate’s decision. If all of the 1,350 to 1,800 living victims came forward, the state could have been liable for about $90 million. But the actual cost was expected to be much less. So far, only 146 living victims have been verified, and an additional 200 requests were pending. The House bill included $11 million for the program.

Still, some senators argued that paying victims of what had been a legal program could lead to paying descendants of slaves or American Indians.

“If we do something like this, you open up the door to other things the state did in its history,” Senator Chris Carney, a Republican, told The Mooresville Tribune. “And some, I’m sure you’d agree, are worse than this.”

North Carolina began sterilizing men and women in 1929 after social workers, county health departments and eventually a state board deemed them too poor, mentally disabled or otherwise unfit to raise children. The 7,600 victims of the program, which was dissolved in 1977, were largely women and disproportionately members of minorities.

Bolded emphasis mine.

So… basically, you’re saying that you’re afraid of people pointing out all the shitty things that you and your ilk have done and demanding accountability?

Charming.

—Vee

7 notes10.48:34 PM • Source: The New York Times
#gender #eugenics #poverty #race #racism #sexism #tw: racism #tw: sexism #tw: eugenics #you're such a queuety

from minuiko

2 notes7.301:12 PM
#gender #gender roles #naruto #kishimoto #sexism

Schrödinger’s Sex

sarahmac1987:

Yes, this is a post about language. No, it is not in fact a post telling people how to use language. IDGAF which words other trans people use to describe themselves.

Still, this terminology sucks:

MTF and FTM are frequently used to describe trans women and trans men (and generally excludes non-binary trans people, or places them into one of these categories whether or not these categories fit). However, these descriptions are inaccurate and misleading. They don’t describe gender or sex. In truth, they describe a process as perceived from an external position: By an outside observer.

These terms mean “cis male to trans female” and “cis female to trans male.” That is, what a trans person’s body appears to be defines who they are, and internal subjective realities are denied as invalid or at least invisible and not present until transition begins.

These labels categorize trans people as not having true categories (sex or gender).

They actually do multiple things:

They reify trans people as really a wo/man. MALE to female, FEMALE to male. The sex that does not accurately describe trans people is the prominent word. This is actually misgendering. It primes the pump for perceiving trans people as really being their coercively assigned sex at birth (CASAB).

They place trans people outside gender - ungendering entirely. MTF and FTM describe processes that trans people undergo, but are used to describe the people who undergo those processes. This places trans people outside of any valid category, always and forever in a between state, where the destination is always an aspiration, but never an eventuality. Even after 23 years I am still described as MTF even though it cannot possibly describe the reality I live, and I have already undergone processes the acronym describes.

Thus trans people end up with Schrödinger’s sex, except that no matter what, no matter how many times anyone looks, the next person will take that opportunity to decide if you really get to count as your actual gender or if you’re redefined into a position that has no stability, and no definition, just a process, a trip between two points that never ever ever reaches its conclusion. Or redefined back to their perception of the starting point, that your reality is actually that of a cis person with the same CASAB, and that the transition itself has no validity. Or more likely, a combination of all of these things at once.

And this is why I loathe these acronyms, especially when used to describe people.

-by Anonymous

258 notes7.207:29 PM
#transgender #sex ed #sex education #sexuality #gender

marsdash:

Sassy Androgyne Friend: Educating People…

keepingitconceptual:

dumbthingsstraightpeoplesay:

I’ve received so many messages about this recently so I thought I’d make a post about it instead of answering each one privately.

Each one of us has the right to set our own boundaries when it comes to educating. This, I believe, is…

42 notes7.148:36 PM • Source: dumbthingsstraightpeoplesay
#sex ed #sex education #sexuality #gender #gender identity

…the data from a study of faculty at the University of California are telling. Female faculty with children report working fifty-one hours a week at their jobs and another fifty-one hours a week doing housework and childcare—truly the second shift. That’s a 102-hour work-week, accounting for more than fourteen hours a day. Add to this eight hours per day for sleeping, an hour for eating and basic hygiene, and by my calculations that leaves these women the grand total of twenty-six minutes a day for themselves. Faculty fathers, by contrast, put in only thirty-two unpaid work hours a week. This substantially lighter load not only enables them to put in an extra five hours a week at work, but to also enjoy a spare /two hours a day/ to spend doing—well, who knows—while faculty mothers continue to launder, cook, test spelling, wash grubby faces, and read bedtime stories. Behind every great academic man there is a woman, but behind every great academic woman is an unpeeled potato and a child who needs some attention. And women who climb the academic ladder don’t just forfeit their leisure. They are much less likely to be married with children than male faculty (41 versus 69 percent, respectively) and, poignantly, twice as likely once in their postreproductive years to say that they would have liked more children. Put simply, the same career entails greater sacrifices for her than for him. So when a female academic who would like to have more than a few minutes for herself every day, as well as a family, jumps off the academic ladder and into a more flexible but dead-end second-tier research position, is it because she’s intrinsically less interested in a demanding academic career or because there are only twenty-four hours in a day? —Cordelia Fine, Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference (via bkwrmballerina)

63 notes7.1211:44 PM • Source: bkwrmballerina39
#gender #gender issues #sexism #gender roles #feminism

Trigger warning at link for rape: this dude hopes women who drink too much get raped »

stfuconservatives:

chubby-bunnies:

stfuapologists:

You see these names? Every one of them is an awful human being. Nobody should ever hire them, vote for them, work with them, treat them with the respect we reserve for our equals, talk to them or hesitate to punch their fucking lights out.

These are criminals. These are pieces of scum. These are evil. And now their names are here, on the Internet, forever, so that every background check and google can see them.

BEAR ASHENBRENNER (also known as THOMAS MICHAEL ASHENBRENNER), MIRANDA PORTILLO, EDDIE VALLIE, TROY MAXWELL MARTIN, RYAN MAPES (also a music producer for TOURSAFE and BAND OF BRANDS and twitter personality), LUIS QUINTANILLA, MEGAN AMANE,  JOHN FOLTS

All of them are misogynistic and violent people. It is unsafe to be around them. They should be ashamed to call themselves human. They need to change themselves drastically before they get a lick of respect from the rest of society.

Fuck that. I honestly don’t understand how anyone could think that it’s ok to conduct themselves in such a manner and say things like that.

What in the actual fuck

(reblogged as a link to the photo because I can’t bear to have that hateful disgusting shit on my blog)

2,933 notes7.116:52 PM • Source: pisssmoker
#rape #rape culture #sexism #feminism #Gender Issues #gender issues #gender #disgusting

Sex 101: Gender Identity

edinburghsexpression:

Welcome to the second post in our Sex 101 series, where we try & cover all the basics of sex & relationships! This post is going to be on the topic of gender identity, including trans* identities, intersexuality & how to be a good ally. If you’d like to see other posts in the series, including our first post on the subject of consent, you can find them here

If you’d like to suggest a topic for us to cover in Sex 101, or if you’d like to ask us a question about anything relating to sex or relationships then our ask box is always open.

This post has a trigger warning on it for discussion of issues surrounding gender identity including but not limited to transgenderism & intersexuality.

If you are questioning your gender identity & feel in need of support there are plenty of great organisations across the UK who can help, & you can find a list of them here.

Here are the questions:

What is gender identity?

Gender identity is the 100% personal & subjective experience that someone has of their own gender. 

So, it’s whether someone feels male or female?

Not really. Although some people may identify as male or female, man or woman, there are plenty of other gender identities out there, some of which are on the male-female spectrum, & some of which aren’t. All of these are 100% valid, & the gender binary is a really out-dated way of looking at gender, which can be really harmful towards people who identify as trans* as it basically erases them & their identities.

So it’s not the same as sex? Or orientation?

Again, no.

The word ‘sex’ is generally used to describe a variety of biological differences between males & females, such as genitalia, chromosomes, & hormone levels. However, just as with gender, it’s important to realise that sex is not a binary. The number of people who are intersex is very high, & intersexuality covers a wide range of conditions, for example atypical genitalia or hormone levels, or unusual chromosome combinations. Sex has nothing to do with gender. Someone can have a “vagina”, XX chromosomes, & high estrogen levels, & still be a man, & the same goes for women with “penises”, XY chromosomes, & high levels of testosterone.

Orientation refers to who someone is romantically & sexually attracted to. Again, this has nothing to do with gender, except in the sense that someone’s gender identity may influence what term they use to describe their orientation. For example, someone who identifies as female & who is attracted to other women might choose to describe their sexual orientation as homosexual, whereas if they were to identify as male, they could identify as heterosexual. Basically, people of all genders can be attracted to people of all genders.

What does cisgender mean?

Cisgender is usually used to describe someone who identifies with the sex & or gender that they were assigned at birth. So, if someone was assigned female at birth & currently identifies as female or a woman, they could be described as being cisgender.

What about transgender?

Transgender refers to someone who does not identify with the sex & or gender they were assigned at birth. However, it is generally used to describe someone who does identify with one of the two gender in the gender binary.

Is that the same as trans*?

Trans* is a more inclusive umbrella term, which can be used by people who identify as transgender, but also anyone who is gender variant or does not identify with the gender binary. This covers a wide range of gender identities, including but not limited to transsexual, genderqueer, non-binary, genderfluid, genderfuck, intersex, third gender, transvestite, cross-dressing, bi-gender, & agender. 

A lot of these gender identities may be new to people, & there are some terms which are used a lot in discussions about gender which people might not be sure about, so we’ve compiled a glossary of terms relating to gender identity which you can find here. We’ll be adding this to our glossary page, & if you have any suggestions for additions, feel free to message us. It’s important to remember that gender identity is an incredibly personal & fluid thing & while someone may identify using one or several of the terms below their experience may differ from the description given & that’s fine. These are only intended as guidelines.

What about the word tranny/she-male/hermaphrodite/he-she etc.?

All of these words have, in the past, been used in a derogatory way & have hurt many people. Because of this, you must be very careful how you use them. In some cases, these words have been reclaimed & that’s great but remember: you can only use them if you are part of the group which has been oppressed by the word, & while it’s ok to use them to describe yourself you should never apply them to anyone else, as they can still be hurtful.

How do I tell what gender someone is?

It’s not really any of your business how someone identifies - you don’t need to know & asking can be extremely insulting. If someone wants you to know what gender they identify as, they will let you know. Not prying is part of being a good ally.

A question that you may need to ask someone is about which pronouns they prefer, although remember that pronouns don’t always indicate gender. 

The best way to find out what pronouns someone prefers is simply to wait until they refer to themselves, & in the mean time just refer to them using neutral pronouns i.e. they & their.

If you are in a position where you need to know which pronouns someone prefers, first understand that it’s a very personal & sensitive issue, especially if they are attempting to present as one of the binary genders (this could suggest to them that they are not passing as the gender they wish to present as). They may also not be comfortable talking about their gender identity, either with you or in front of people, particularly if they are in a situation where doing so could put them in danger.

With that in mind, here’s a guide to opening up a dialogue with someone about their preferred pronouns:

  • Take them aside or wait until the two of you are out of ear shot of others.
  • Make it clear that they don’t have to answer if they are not comfortable doing so.
  • Politely ask “What are your preferred pronouns?”. This question has nothing to do with their sex, or even really their gender, so do not phrase the question in a way which makes it about those things.
  • Respect their answer (use their preferred pronoun at all times & if you make a mistake, apologise immediately), thank them, & move on. 

My friend or partner has just come out as trans*, what can I do to support them? How can I be a good trans* ally?

The short answer is: pretty much the same way you go about being a good friend or partner to anyone.

The longer answer is:

  • Be supportive - this means respecting them & the choices they make. Make sure they know you’re there for them & listen to what they have to say. Coming out as trans* & transitioning can be a tough time for a lot of people so they may be looking for someone they can depend on & talk through their problems with.
  • Part of being a good trans* ally is about educating yourself. There are tons of great resources online regarding trans* identities, & taking the time to educate yourself can take a lot of pressure off trans* people, especially if you’re close to them. Coming out can be tough enough without feeling like you have to explain yourself. If you have any questions, feel free to ask them but be sensitive & respect them if they don’t want to answer.
  • Take note of their preferred pronouns - for advice on how to ask, see above. You should also check when you should use these pronouns. Especially if the trans* person is your partner or close friend, it’s possible they have come out to you & not to others, so by checking when to use which pronouns you can avoid outing them. Outing someone is a terrible thing to do & can put people in danger. Never do it. Personal information given to you in confidence is not to be shared, & if you’re not sure whether someone knows or not, don’t share with them until you’ve had confirmation.
  • It’s understandable if you want to ask questions about the future, for example whether they plan on transitioning & if so how, but again, understand these are personal questions & ones they themselves may not know the answer to, so don’t pressure them.
  • More broadly, part of being a good trans* ally is challenging your own assumptions of gender, & working to break down the gender binary. You can do this by not assuming people’s gender, using gender neutral pronouns unless you know someone’s preferred ones, avoiding making links between gender & sexual orientation, & not defining things like clothing & hairstyles as masculine or feminine. 

So, remember, gender identity is 100% subjective, 100% personal & 100% none of your business. As with all things in life, be respectful, educate & challenge yourself & others, & be supportive.

If you have anything to add or any changes to suggest we’d love to hear them & you can send them here. Our glossary of gender terms is here & we’ll be adding them to our main glossary as soon as possible.

138 notes7.94:31 AM • Source: edinburghsexpression
#sex ed #sex education #gender #gender issues #sexuality #gender identity #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqq #trans* #transgender #intersexuality #transgenderism