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One semi-hiatus for the next two weeks
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- Amber Rose
I love Amber Rose don’t care who knows
Please understand when someone says you have privilege - whether it be because of your race, gender, etc., understand they are not saying they claim to know you and understand your life. They are not saying you have lived an easy life. They are not saying you were born with a silver spoon or found one along the way.
What they are saying is that you were born with something, something that others were not. You were born with an advantage that for the time being, is still inherent and institutionalized.
What they are saying is listen, because as a result of that privilege, there are some things you can’t learn unless you do exactly that - listen.
So I implore you: Open you eyes. Close your mouth. Fill your ears, and consequentially, your heart and mind.
As I anticipated, the majority of the victims were female. There’s also his mother, and still one other unidentified victim, from the sounds of it?
There is a clear root cause of all these male spree-killings. It isn’t mental illness nor gun violence (ultimately that’s a major problem which exacerbates an already bad situation, but it isn’t the reason). These men all display very similar characteristics of anxious masculinity and massive male entitlement; they just take it to the furthest end of the spectrum we see displayed by men throughout our society. We are raising these men; these men are part of our society. Whilst their acts are monstrous, they themselves are not monsters.
All the shooters in these spree-killings are male and almost all of them are white (in the US, anyway; it varies in other parts of the world dependent on ethnic makeup). They have similar personality types: men who have been taught since birth that they’re worth more than other people by virtue of gender, race, sexual orientation etc but have poor social skills. They don’t get the pussy they’re ‘owed’ the job they’re ‘owed’, the attention they’re ‘owed’. Sometimes, that intense sense of entitlement and anger are further displayed in their choice of victims. Some kill indiscriminately, but a lot specifically target women and girls. That’s not a coincidence. And yet the media either a) never notices or b) if they do notice, they don’t report on it. I watched several docos on the Amish school shooting and not a single one of them mentioned the very obvious fact that the shooter separated the boys and girls and then shot only the girls.
People fumble around asking “why? why?” and the answer is right in front of our faces and is thoroughly tied up in masculinity and the way we are raising our boys to see themselves as worth more than other people, and to deny the humanity of women and children in particular. This is a spectrum, and domestic abusers/killers are enacting the same exact thing, just in a different way. Family annihilators are a particularly obvious parallel; they take out their ex and kids in one fell swoop because he sees them as extensions of himself that he has a right to control and kill at will, rather than people in their own right. The whole thing is just disgusting, and I’m so tired of this happening repeatedly with a whole bunch of “Why?” questions raised, and then things like mental illness or video games get scapegoated. There are many pieces to the puzzle, of course. But the reason some men do this is not ‘because video games’, or ‘because mental illness’. It is ‘because toxic masculinity’ and ‘because male entitlement’.
North Carolina’s novel effort to compensate people who were sterilized under a widespread and decades-long eugenics program that stretched into the 1970s all but died in the State Senate on Wednesday.
Despite backing from Gov. Bev Perdue and the State House of Representatives, a compensation package that would have given victims up to $50,000 each was not included in the Senate’s budget.
“I think there’s a very strong message from the Senate they’re not prepared to take it up this year,” said Thom Tillis, a Republican and speaker of the House, who supported paying victims.
Lawmakers will vote on the final $20.2 billion budget later this week and then send it to the governor, but it is unlikely that any last-minute changes will include the eugenics bill.
Victims and supporters, who had hoped North Carolina would be the first of 32 states that practiced eugenics to pay victims, were angry.
“I am just overwhelmed that their mentality is still the same as the politicians who supported eugenics in the first place,” said Elaine Riddick, who was sterilized at 14 after having a baby fathered by a neighbor. “You have done messed up people for life, and this is what you do?”
The state said that Ms. Riddick was “feebleminded” and potentially promiscuous. So her grandmother, who was illiterate and who feared Ms. Riddick would be sent to an orphanage, signed the consent form with an X.
Ms. Riddick, who now lives in Atlanta, took a case against the state to the United States Supreme Court in the ‘70s, but it declined to hear her appeal. She is now working with a lawyer representing a group of victims from other states to consider a class-action suit.
Certainly, fiscal concerns were a factor in the Senate’s decision. If all of the 1,350 to 1,800 living victims came forward, the state could have been liable for about $90 million. But the actual cost was expected to be much less. So far, only 146 living victims have been verified, and an additional 200 requests were pending. The House bill included $11 million for the program.
Still, some senators argued that paying victims of what had been a legal program could lead to paying descendants of slaves or American Indians.
“If we do something like this, you open up the door to other things the state did in its history,” Senator Chris Carney, a Republican, told The Mooresville Tribune. “And some, I’m sure you’d agree, are worse than this.”
North Carolina began sterilizing men and women in 1929 after social workers, county health departments and eventually a state board deemed them too poor, mentally disabled or otherwise unfit to raise children. The 7,600 victims of the program, which was dissolved in 1977, were largely women and disproportionately members of minorities.
Bolded emphasis mine.
So… basically, you’re saying that you’re afraid of people pointing out all the shitty things that you and your ilk have done and demanding accountability?
Yes, this is a post about language. No, it is not in fact a post telling people how to use language. IDGAF which words other trans people use to describe themselves.
Still, this terminology sucks:
MTF and FTM are frequently used to describe trans women and trans men (and generally excludes non-binary trans people, or places them into one of these categories whether or not these categories fit). However, these descriptions are inaccurate and misleading. They don’t describe gender or sex. In truth, they describe a process as perceived from an external position: By an outside observer.
These terms mean “cis male to trans female” and “cis female to trans male.” That is, what a trans person’s body appears to be defines who they are, and internal subjective realities are denied as invalid or at least invisible and not present until transition begins.
These labels categorize trans people as not having true categories (sex or gender).
They actually do multiple things:
They reify trans people as really a wo/man. MALE to female, FEMALE to male. The sex that does not accurately describe trans people is the prominent word. This is actually misgendering. It primes the pump for perceiving trans people as really being their coercively assigned sex at birth (CASAB).
They place trans people outside gender - ungendering entirely. MTF and FTM describe processes that trans people undergo, but are used to describe the people who undergo those processes. This places trans people outside of any valid category, always and forever in a between state, where the destination is always an aspiration, but never an eventuality. Even after 23 years I am still described as MTF even though it cannot possibly describe the reality I live, and I have already undergone processes the acronym describes.
Thus trans people end up with Schrödinger’s sex, except that no matter what, no matter how many times anyone looks, the next person will take that opportunity to decide if you really get to count as your actual gender or if you’re redefined into a position that has no stability, and no definition, just a process, a trip between two points that never ever ever reaches its conclusion. Or redefined back to their perception of the starting point, that your reality is actually that of a cis person with the same CASAB, and that the transition itself has no validity. Or more likely, a combination of all of these things at once.
And this is why I loathe these acronyms, especially when used to describe people.
I’ve received so many messages about this recently so I thought I’d make a post about it instead of answering each one privately.
Each one of us has the right to set our own boundaries when it comes to educating. This, I believe, is…